I have a friend, let us call her Alice. Alice is in her early forties and single, after leaving a long term relationship a couple of years ago. Her experiences with men since have been, well, a little bit shit. Alice doesn’t have a job at the moment and is short of money. It shouldn’t be this way. She is clever and funny, she is attractive. I have no idea what she is like in bed, but I can imagine that she is someone any straight man would cut his right arm off to sleep with. Alice likes sex, one reason why she ends up with dysfunctional men when she might be better off taking an extended break from males.
We chatted the other day and Alice has a plan. She intends to bag herself a sugar daddy, a well off guy who will shower her with nice things in exchange for sex and companionship. She sees this as purely transactional and I guess a lot of the men who become sugar daddies do as well, In fact I am pretty damn sure that they go into these kinds of relationships with their eyes open. They are not naïve. They get sex, they get the social cachet of being seen with an attractive younger woman, they get to feel good about themselves. Alice tells me she needs to buy herself some new lingerie, find a good photographer and then she will be ready to go.
It turns out (I had no idea) that there are sugar daddy websites where you can make contact with potential partners. Alice sent me a few links, including one to a transgender sugar baby site. And this got my thinking. A few years into transition I have learned many things, one being that there are…
